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anotheralexandros:

sorry to burst anyone’s bubble, but if you see this post going around—I deleted an enormously long list of ways that women can “avoid getting raped”—it’s mostly not helpful.
Firstly, it popularizes the myth that most rapists are strangers who jump out at you in parking lots or supermarkets. 73% of all rapists are known to their victim beforehand. Furthermore, a lot of these tips are just plain wrong. Your hairstyle does not make you more or less of a target. Rapists do not carry scissors around to cut off people’s clothing, and THE TYPE OF CLOTHING YOU WEAR DOES NOT MAKE YOU MORE LIKELY TO BE A VICTIM. The post claims that “most” rapists are looking to transport their victim to a second location—I can find no confirmation of this. 50% of all rapes occur within 1 mile of the victim’s home.
It also claims that most rapists will get discouraged if a woman fights them at all—this varies according to each individual man. Some are discouraged if a woman fights. Some want women to fight because it fuels their power fantasy. The post also offers contradictory information. It tells women to avoid contact with men in public spaces, because that makes them prey, but it also tells women to make small talk with unfamiliar men because that makes it easier to identify them. If someone is harassing you in public, you do not need to make contact with them. Again, some men might be scared off, others might be encouraged. There is NO WAY TO TELL whether fighting/addressing a rapist will encourage or discourage them, so do what makes you feel safer in that individual situation.
"Points to remember" 3-7 seem to be legitimate, but I am not a martial arts fighter so I can’t vouch for them.
Of the final set of tips, number 2 is, frankly, idiotic. Yes, a ROBBER is probably more interested in your wallet than you, but  a RAPIST is not. Throwing your wallet won’t do anything—also, if a robber is more interested in your wallet, then why shouldn’t you just hand it to him? What’s he going to do after that, once he actually has what he wants? It’s ridiculous. “If you are parked next to a big van, enter your car from the passenger door. Most serial killers attack their victims by pulling them into their vans while the women are attempting to get into their cars.” I don’t even know what to say about this. There is no one way that serial killers operate; even watching crime shows, doing a basic google search, or checking Wikipedia will tell you that serial killers have a variety of tactics, classified by whether they are organized, disorganized, or mixed. This fact appears to be based on Ted Bundy (who didn’t even use this method all of the time). Google serial killers and read about their modus operandi and you will find that this “fact” is complete crap. I also can’t find anything to back up the “a shooter will only hit a moving target 4 in 100 times” factoid. That depends entirely on how close you are and how familiar your assailant is with a gun.
SO, on top of the factual errors in this post, here are two THEORETICAL problems I have with it: first, it encourages the belief that it is a woman’s fault to protect herself from being raped. “If you’re about to be raped, it’s simple! Just use these handy tips and you WILL be able to fight off your attacker, no matter how big or strong he is compared to you!” This is dangerous information. It keeps people focused on women’s actions, and does nothing to prevent men from raping in the first place. It draws attention away from those 78% of rapists who target people they know. If a woman feels more comfortable knowing self-defense, that’s great for her, but NO survivor should have to feel as though they “didn’t do enough” to stop themselves from being raped.
Secondly, the above image. A black/dark-skinned man threatening a (possibly) white/light-skinned woman. 52% of all rapists are white. 17.7% of rape victims are white, 18.8% are black, 6.8% are Asian Pacific Islander, 34.1% are American Indian/Alaskan, and 24.4% are mixed race. The idea that black men are the majority of rapists, and that white women are the majority of victims, is a RACIST MYTH perpetuated in the post-Civil War South as a way of restricting the movement of black men, as well as used as a justification for racist violence. Using that particular photo is (like the rest of this post, tbh) fearmongering, inaccurate, and dangerous.

anotheralexandros:

sorry to burst anyone’s bubble, but if you see this post going around—I deleted an enormously long list of ways that women can “avoid getting raped”—it’s mostly not helpful.

Firstly, it popularizes the myth that most rapists are strangers who jump out at you in parking lots or supermarkets. 73% of all rapists are known to their victim beforehand. Furthermore, a lot of these tips are just plain wrong. Your hairstyle does not make you more or less of a target. Rapists do not carry scissors around to cut off people’s clothing, and THE TYPE OF CLOTHING YOU WEAR DOES NOT MAKE YOU MORE LIKELY TO BE A VICTIM. The post claims that “most” rapists are looking to transport their victim to a second location—I can find no confirmation of this. 50% of all rapes occur within 1 mile of the victim’s home.

It also claims that most rapists will get discouraged if a woman fights them at all—this varies according to each individual man. Some are discouraged if a woman fights. Some want women to fight because it fuels their power fantasy. The post also offers contradictory information. It tells women to avoid contact with men in public spaces, because that makes them prey, but it also tells women to make small talk with unfamiliar men because that makes it easier to identify them. If someone is harassing you in public, you do not need to make contact with them. Again, some men might be scared off, others might be encouraged. There is NO WAY TO TELL whether fighting/addressing a rapist will encourage or discourage them, so do what makes you feel safer in that individual situation.

"Points to remember" 3-7 seem to be legitimate, but I am not a martial arts fighter so I can’t vouch for them.

Of the final set of tips, number 2 is, frankly, idiotic. Yes, a ROBBER is probably more interested in your wallet than you, but  a RAPIST is not. Throwing your wallet won’t do anything—also, if a robber is more interested in your wallet, then why shouldn’t you just hand it to him? What’s he going to do after that, once he actually has what he wants? It’s ridiculous. “If you are parked next to a big van, enter your car from the passenger door. Most serial killers attack their victims by pulling them into their vans while the women are attempting to get into their cars.” I don’t even know what to say about this. There is no one way that serial killers operate; even watching crime shows, doing a basic google search, or checking Wikipedia will tell you that serial killers have a variety of tactics, classified by whether they are organized, disorganized, or mixed. This fact appears to be based on Ted Bundy (who didn’t even use this method all of the time). Google serial killers and read about their modus operandi and you will find that this “fact” is complete crap. I also can’t find anything to back up the “a shooter will only hit a moving target 4 in 100 times” factoid. That depends entirely on how close you are and how familiar your assailant is with a gun.

SO, on top of the factual errors in this post, here are two THEORETICAL problems I have with it: first, it encourages the belief that it is a woman’s fault to protect herself from being raped. “If you’re about to be raped, it’s simple! Just use these handy tips and you WILL be able to fight off your attacker, no matter how big or strong he is compared to you!” This is dangerous information. It keeps people focused on women’s actions, and does nothing to prevent men from raping in the first place. It draws attention away from those 78% of rapists who target people they know. If a woman feels more comfortable knowing self-defense, that’s great for her, but NO survivor should have to feel as though they “didn’t do enough” to stop themselves from being raped.

Secondly, the above image. A black/dark-skinned man threatening a (possibly) white/light-skinned woman. 52% of all rapists are white. 17.7% of rape victims are white, 18.8% are black, 6.8% are Asian Pacific Islander, 34.1% are American Indian/Alaskan, and 24.4% are mixed race. The idea that black men are the majority of rapists, and that white women are the majority of victims, is a RACIST MYTH perpetuated in the post-Civil War South as a way of restricting the movement of black men, as well as used as a justification for racist violence. Using that particular photo is (like the rest of this post, tbh) fearmongering, inaccurate, and dangerous.

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pebblemagic asked: so my school is a little obsessed with lucille clifton's works because she used to teach here, and they gave us a copy of "i am accused of tending to the past" and it really made me think of you/this blog/this mission poemhunter[.]com/best-poems/lucille-clifton/i-am-accused-of-tending-to-the-past/

medievalpoc:

Thanks! I’ve always enjoyed it.

i am accused of tending to the past
i am accused of tending to the past
as if i made it,
as if i sculpted it
with my own hands. i did not.
this past was waiting for me
when i came,
a monstrous unnamed baby,
and i with my mother’s itch
took it to breast
and named it
History.
she is more human now,
learning languages everyday,
remembering faces, names and dates.
when she is strong enough to travel
on her own, beware, she will.

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Duking it Out: Parentheses vs. Dash

Writing that engages — that grabs — and writing that is dramatic depends heavily on both the parentheses and the dash (or it should). These two types of punctuation have been duking it out for many years. Proponents of each argue back and forth about which is the most understandable in modern writing.

Can the parentheses and the dash be used interchangeably? Should writers prefer one to the other? Is the dash suave and the parenthetical clunky?

It is a tough call, so let’s dive in.

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wtfevolution:

"I miss dinosaurs."
"Evolution, we’ve talked about this."
"But I miss them.”
"You turned them into birds, remember? It was the best you could do, given the circumstances.”
"It’s not the same."
"I know. I’m sorry."
"Can I at least make these cassowaries 50 feet tall?"
"Come on, you know that size didn’t work out so well before."
"Six feet, then? And over 100 pounds?"
"Yeah, that sounds better."
"And can I put weird prehistoric crests on their heads?"
"I don’t see why not."
"And can they slash people’s throats with their dagger claws?”
"Sure, pal, if that would make you feel better."
"I think it would. Thanks for understanding."
"You got it, evolution. Anytime."
Source: Wikimedia Commons / Bjørn Christian Tørrissen

wtfevolution:

"I miss dinosaurs."

"Evolution, we’ve talked about this."

"But I miss them.”

"You turned them into birds, remember? It was the best you could do, given the circumstances.”

"It’s not the same."

"I know. I’m sorry."

"Can I at least make these cassowaries 50 feet tall?"

"Come on, you know that size didn’t work out so well before."

"Six feet, then? And over 100 pounds?"

"Yeah, that sounds better."

"And can I put weird prehistoric crests on their heads?"

"I don’t see why not."

"And can they slash people’s throats with their dagger claws?”

"Sure, pal, if that would make you feel better."

"I think it would. Thanks for understanding."

"You got it, evolution. Anytime."

Source: Wikimedia Commons / Bjørn Christian Tørrissen

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Are our ways of teaching students to ask some questions always correlative with our ways of teaching them not to ask - indeed, to be unconscious of - others? Does the educational system exist in order to promulgate knowledge, or is its main function rather to universalize a society’s tacit agreement about what it has decided it does not and cannot know?

Barbara Johnson, “Teaching Ignorance: L’Ecole des femmes,” Yale French Studies 63 (1982), p. 173

twistedrecesses submitted to medievalpoc:

Saw this quote and thought of your blog and mission.

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